Is There Inspiration Right Outside Of Your Front Door?

Is There Inspiration Right Outside Of Your Front Door?

Most of us would admit to finding a sunset somewhat moving and possibly inspirational. Few of us can walk past a beautifully red and purple sky without stopping to take a look and probably upload a picture to Instagram. The same can be said of star-filled skies and crashing waves.

But what is it about nature that we find so beautiful and so inspirational?

Why are poets, artists, and musicians drawn to these scenes? And how can you use this to encourage more creativity in your own life?

Why We Find Nature Beautiful
It’s a mistake to say that we find nature beautiful in particular. In fact, we can just as easily experience a sense of awe looking at man-made things. Try climbing to the top of a high building and looking out over the skyline of a city, and see how you feel. Likewise, many of us would express a sense of awe looking at the pyramids.

We feel awe, reverence, and wonder when we see things that we find hard to fathom and that we can’t quite take in all at once. Things incredibly intricate, incredibly beautiful, or incredibly vast all create a sense of being small in a university full of incredible possibilities. Research shows that this is a universal feeling, even shared by some animals, and that it appears to be beneficial for any species as a whole as it encourages altruism and community. Researchers often call these moments ‘peak experiences’.

Where the Inspiration Comes In

So why does this lead to inspiration?
The key thing to recognize is that peak experiences involve novelty and scale. They light up lots of areas of our brain as we struggle to comprehend the entirety of what we’re seeing. This lighting up of the brain results in lots of memories, ideas, and thoughts flowing all at once and this is often said to be the perfect condition for ideas to emerge.

At the same time, beautiful scenes and majestic sights trigger the release of neurotransmitters that make us feel relaxed and exhilarated at the same time. Again, this puts us in a state that is conducive to creative thought and mental experimentation.

How to Harness Peak Experiences

So how do you harness these peak experiences to trigger more innovation and creativity in your life?

One way to do this is to subject yourself to more beauty. Go on walks, travel the world, even just spend some time on Google images! Another is to try and appreciate the majesty in even your smallest moments. When you see a flower bloom for the first time, or when you see a swarm of bees, stop to think of all that it represents and of the intricate beauty therein.

The greatest poets are those who can see inspiration in all they survey.

Next time you step outside stop and smell the roses or see the uniqueness in a snowflake.  It just may change your life!

Lost Your Inspirtation?  What Is It Costing You?

Lost Your Inspirtation? What Is It Costing You?

Do you ever get overwhelmed by a task, project or life in general?   It happens to the best of us.  While it is OK to have a “bad” day or an “off hour”, allowing ourselves to stay in that place of feeling lost or in a downward spiral has  both short and long term negative effects.

Congratulations if you are aware of this feeling of overwhelm!  That means that you can change it.

Here are five techniques you can use to try and coax something new and exciting out of your brain!

Go for a Walk
Walks are inspiring for a number of reasons. For starters, they allow us to take a break from what we’re doing and to change our environment. In turn, this leads to new input that can help us to gain new perspective on whatever problem or task we’re wrestling with.

At the same time, walking is a monotonous task that allows our default mode network to kick in. This, essentially, means that we’re daydreaming, which is, often, a source of great inspiration.  Keep a note pad or voice recorder on hand.  Your next successful endeavor may be discovered on that walk!

Ask the Right Questions
Sometimes, inspiration is just about asking the right questions, which can help to reframe the problem you’re facing in order to look at it in a new way. For instance, if you’re wondering how to solve a problem and you can’t come up with an answer, try asking yourself how ‘Johnny’ would approach it. Likewise, instead of thinking about what you want something to be, decide what you don’t want it to be.

Take a Break
Sometimes, the best thing you can do to spark some creativity or solve a problem is to take a break. This way, you stop trying to force the idea, which simply creates stress, and instead, you simply let it come to you now that you’ve entered all your input. This is why we’re often encouraged to sleep on big decisions.

Listen to Music
Music can be highly inspiring as it alters our mood and energy level and takes us to different places. Often, you’ll find that music can leave you lost in thought, so try listening to some tracks while you mull over a subject, and see if that helps.

Talk it Over
There’s a myth that ideas take the form of lightbulbs or lightning strikes and that they come in a flash, fully formed. Actually, when questioned, most people admit that their best ideas formulated slowly, that they gestated for days, months, or even years before emerging.

Often, the best ideas are not formed in isolation either but rather when we discuss them with other people. Even if we’re just thinking aloud, this can help us to see new perspectives and will often result in new breakthroughs.

 

Avoid People Who Are Negative Influencers

Avoid People Who Are Negative Influencers

One of the best ways to become more influential is to avoid people who are not. These people are not only negative but are determined to bring you down. In some sense, these people could be considered influential but the influence is negative. This type of influence will never get you to a place that you want to be. It will only serve to turn people away from you.
You’ll recognize these negative influencers as people who are never happy in any situation. They will give many reasons why nothing will work and they will never give any suggestions on what can be done that will.
Negative influencers are also chronic complainers. Whatever you try to tell them, they will shoot down in a moment’s notice. They don’t want things to work out because they wouldn’t have anything to complain about.
It will be relatively easy to cut off exposure to negative people who are only acquaintances. There is little to no emotional bonds that have been developed. You can easily unfollow these connections on social media and simply don’t answer any calls that they make to you.
For friends who you’ve known for a while, who also happen to be negative influencers, it may be more difficult to break the ties. Some of these friends may not have been negative the whole time of your friendship. You may remember when they were more positive and fun to be with. You may also believe there is the possibility of turning them around. This is challenging, but you will need to make the decision if you want to become more influential. The negative people are not going to be your allies towards this end.
Negative people want to see you fail. They will give you reasons why whatever you are trying to implement will not work. They want you to fail because if you actually made it work, you would take away their excuse and make them look bad. They are all about excuses. Sometimes, they may even seem well-intentioned. But the results of their negativity are the same.
If you want to gain influence in a positive way, you will need to associate yourself from the negative influencers. Maintaining a positive attitude is challenging when you have a Debbie Downer constantly picking away at your psyche. As for losing friends in the process, ask yourself just how good could these friends be if they are dragging you down. You owe it to yourself to steer clear of these types of people.

I am an author and Law of Attraction Life and Business Coach Sue Ascioti-Plange. I work with those curious about Law of Attraction and wondering how they can live the life of their dreams and would love to connect with you. Listen to Session 1 of the Live Your Best Life Now Course I did with Tanya Brockett for FREE and get started right away.

3 Essential Task Conditions Required to Get in the Flow

3 Essential Task Conditions Required to Get in the Flow

When you need to get things done do you find yourself struggling to accomplish what you set out to do? Perhaps you find yourself doubting your ability or being constantly distracted from the task at hand. You can learn how to improve your chances of success and increased productivity by creating the right conditions.

The work of positive psychologist, Mihály Csí­kszentmihályi, outlines how to create conditions that will allow you to harness the power of the flow state. This in turn will enable you to work smarter and faster, allowing you to achieve your goals and complete tasks.

The following are three essential conditions that are required to enable you to get into the flow state.

1. Structure and Direction. Whatever activity you need to undertake must have clear goals. It also needs to provide progress in your acquisition of skills and knowledge as well as help you move forward in achieving your goal. By making sure this is in place then you will know what to do and why.

2. Immediate Feedback. Whatever you are doing it must provide you with both clear and immediate feedback. The flow state can only be maintained by your ability to monitor and respond to the changing requirements as you progress. By adapting your performance you remain in the flow state.

3. Balance. It’s essential that there is a balance between your skills and the challenge(s) of the task. Flow is only maintained when you are not doubting yourself and your abilities, bored or anxious. The correct level of challenge will ensure that you are motivated to complete it and feel positive while doing so. It also requires you to remain in a state of non-self-awareness where you are not thinking about yourself and your abilities or actions. You get caught up in the activity and lose track of both yourself and time. Your self-confidence in your ability to complete the task is crucial to its completion and your success.

By harnessing the power of these three conditions you will be able to increase your productivity with ease. You’ll find that time passes without you noticing and you will feel a sense of achievement and growing self-confidence. In addition you’ll benefit from the fact that your knowledge and skills have increased and you are completing tasks and achieving goals. Harnessing the power of the flow state is a powerful tool that can help you achieve success in your personal and professional life.

 

5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence

5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence

Achieving success can make you a more confident person, but it’s difficult to reach the level of success you desire without confidence. Confidence is the catalyst to overcoming doubts and fears and can help you through the worst obstacles you’ll encounter on the road to success.

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

Helen Keller

Here are some sure-fire tips to help you get the confidence you need to climb the success ladder:

1. Be true to yourself. Your values and belief system must be firmly in place if you want to achieve a success you can be proud of and to ensure you like yourself when you do reach the top of the ladder.  If you achieve success in ways which compromise who you truly are, you won’t be able to enjoy your achievements. It will be a success built on sand rather than solid ground and may crumble and fall with time.

2. Trust in your abilities. You may have much to learn before you can succeed in a chosen field or path. Think of all that you’ve achieved so far and obstacles you’ve already overcome and trust that you can do more.
Don’t dismiss what you’ve learned so far in life. You might think it was easy and that anyone could do it, but others may see it as remarkable and look up to you for it.

3. Use your subconscious mind. Repeating positive affirmations and shooing negative thoughts away builds strength for your subconscious mind – a powerful ally in your quest for success.  Your subconscious mind, when trained to do your bidding can make a real difference in how you and others see yourself. It can also be a detriment if you let negative thoughts permeate and gain control – making you doubt your true abilities.

4. Use correct body language. Watch your posture, stance and control of your body language. It can be powerful when dealing with others and expecting a great outcome. Sitting up straight (as your mother used to tell you) can send a far different and more positive message than slumping.  Study body language and begin to practice it. When you enter a room with your head held high and walking like you own where you are and how you present yourself, people will take notice in a positive way.

5. Pay attention to your personal look. When you present yourself as unkempt and looking wrinkled and ungroomed, the image isn’t one that reaps success.  If this is an area of your life where you lack skills, seek the help of others and develop a style you’re comfortable with and which fits the image you want to present.

Remember, build on what you may see as small successes and you will get to the bigger ones in record time!

I work with those curious about Law of Attraction and wondering how they can live the life of their dreams and would love to connect with you. Listen to Session 1 of the Live Your Best Life Now Course I did with Tanya Brockett for FREE and get started right away.

How to Find Happiness Without Seeking It

How to Find Happiness Without Seeking It

It can easily be argued that every decision a person makes is in the pursuit of happiness. You might say, “Wait a minute. I go to a job I hate every day just so I can pay my bills and barely survive.” True, but you really think that going to that miserable job will leave you happier than staying home and losing the ability to pay your bills.

The need to be happy drives everyone, but people pursue happiness through different means.

Some believe they’ll be happy if they can only amass a large enough fortune. Others believe they’ll be happy by helping others. Some pursue a family, while other believe the freedom of staying single provides a better opportunity for happiness. An investment banker and a Buddhist monk are still pursuing the same thing, only in dramatically different ways.

“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.” – Thoreau

Can you make yourself happy on purpose?

Can you pursue happiness and capture it like a child chasing a firefly? Science says “no.”

Find happiness without pursuing it:

1. Avoid overestimating the effect of your circumstances on your happiness. Even a perfect relationship and perfect job can become a grind after the newness wears off. You don’t need to live in the perfect location or have the ideal career to be happy. Nothing is perfect all the time.

* Studies show that people with modest incomes and possessions can be just as happy as the wealthy. There are happy and miserable people in the US, China, Russia, Saudi Arabia, and everywhere else in the world.

* There are happy and miserable doctors, clowns, homeless people, Christians, Jews, Muslims, tall people, short people, men, and women.

2. Searching for strong emotions. Studies find that the happiest people are moderately happy on a regular basis. The frequency of positive emotions is much more important for happiness than the intensity of the emotions.

Remember the definition of Law of Attraction:

I attract into my life what ever I give my attention, energy and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted.

Remember, the frequency of positive emotions is much more important for happiness than the intensity of the emotions.

3. Focusing on happiness leads to misery. Several scientific studies have shown that when subjects focused on happiness, they reported feeling lonely and depressed. Searching for happiness is a singular, perhaps even selfish, activity. Putting too much of your attention on yourself results in lowered mental health.

* Keep your attention on others if you want to be happy. It’s hard to be happy if you spend a lot of time alone.

4. Gratitude is an important component of happiness. If you have a lot to be grateful for, you’ll naturally be happy, too. Make gratitude a habit. Ask yourself what you’re grateful for several times each day.

* Set up trigger points, such as when you take a shower, put on your shoes, start your car, walk into your place of work, take off your shoes, and get into bed. These are just a few ideas. Think about your own life. What are your current morning and evening routines? Use those routines to remind you to be grateful.

Happiness is the goal, but it can’t be pursued. It just happens when you’re living your life. A few good friends, the right mindset, and gratitude are all the intelligent person requires to have a happy life.

Live your life per your values.

Following your values might not make you happy, but it will help to avoid being unhappy. There’s no reason to put off being happy until you’re married, make six figures, or climb Mount Everest.

Choose to be happy now.

Let me know if you would like to talk about coaching with me.  To learn more click here to attend Module 1 of the Live Your Best Life Now Course I created with Tanya Brockett and begin living your dream life today!

Tips for Practicing and Mastering Any Skill

Tips for Practicing and Mastering Any Skill

I will admit it, I am a learning junkie.  Learning and expertise in a skill are not the same thing though.  I tend to strive for mastery and used to feel frustrated when I didn’t master a new skill the first time I tried it.  The new skill I am working on now is piano, so that I can keep up with my 7 year old’s ever expanding skills.

Expertise doesn’t come overnight. Even relatively simple skills can take some time to reach a high level of expertise.

There are many theories of how long it takes to master a complex skill. The most common number is 10,000 hours. But it’s not enough to mindlessly practice something for 10,000 hours. It’s important to spend that time optimally.

Any skill can be mastered with sufficient dedication and effective practice:

1. Quality counts. Repetition is important, but not more important than accuracy. Playing a guitar chord incorrectly 1,000 times doesn’t help much, unless you want to do it incorrectly when it counts. Avoid the belief that the quantity of practice is all that matters. Quality practice results in a greater level of mastery.

2. Daily practice is effective practice. There’s a limit to how much you can do in a day. There’s a limit to how much your brain can learn. Practicing beyond a certain amount of time isn’t an effective use of your time. Many world-class pianists insist they don’t play more than a couple of hours each day.

* Practice your skill daily if possible, even if it shortens your practice sessions. Some expert musicians recommend practicing for multiple sessions of 10 minutes per session.

3. Practice multiple times each day. Thirty minutes of practice, twice per day, is more effective than practicing for an hour once per day. Break up your practice sessions and you’ll make more progress.

4. Get a good coach. Whether you want to master real estate investing or playing the banjo, a coach is an important part of your team. Why make unnecessary mistakes? A great mentor can take years off your learning curve.

5. Spend your time on what matters. Of all the activities you can do to master a skill, 20% of those items will provide 80% of your results. Unfortunately, that 20% consists of the things that aren’t enjoyable to do. Mastering your skill will require spending your time effectively. Make the most of your effort.

6. Test yourself regularly. Are you learning how to drive a golf ball further? Then check your driving distance on a regular basis. Examine your results and look at your progress. Making progress means you’re on the right track. It’s also very motivating.

* Poor progress might mean you need to change your approach. Consulting your mentor is another logical step.

7. Be selective. Too many people try to master too many things. You don’t have enough time to master the drums, the guitar, Mandarin, photography, screenwriting, and long-range rifle shooting. There are only so many hours in the day. Be choosy and work on the skills that matter the most to you.

8. Have patience. Progress comes in spurts. The first 40 hours or so can be especially troubling. Until your brain makes a few alterations, progress can be extremely slow. It’s easy to become frustrated and quit. Give yourself time. Focus practicing consistently and properly. Trust that the results will come in time.

Not all skills are created equal.

Some skills have a physical component, such as pitching a baseball or playing the violin. Others are more information based, such as investing in commercial real estate. The way you’ll practice your skill depends on the skill in question. That’s why a mentor is so important.

Use your practice time wisely. Your time is limited. Ensure that you give your practice efforts your full attention. With time, any skill can be mastered!

 

The Emotional Dangers of Judging and How to Stop

The Emotional Dangers of Judging and How to Stop

Do you find yourself often judging others and criticizing them?

Are you also critical of yourself?

You may have formed a habit of judgmental thinking that you didn’t realize you had. Judging is a common issue and can have negative emotional consequences. Although some level of criticism is normal, frequently judging others or yourself can lead you down the path of negativity, suffering, and misery.

As I kid I always felt judged and always judged myself.  It was in my early 20s when I realized that I was 100% responsible for my life and for the most part that stopped.

Remember the definition of Law of Attraction?

I attract into my life what ever I give my attention, energy and focus to…whether wanted or unwanted.

When I was judging myself I found more things to judge myself for.  When I judged others more negative circumstances showed up.

Let’s change that today!

Learn the emotional effects of judging:

1. You decrease your own happiness. Judging usually involves negative emotions. You focus on the negative qualities you see in others and yourself. You miss out on the positive aspects.

* This leads to dissatisfaction with the world, your life, your friends, and other things.

2. You hurt others, and harm yourself in the process. Because of the negative feelings you cause when you judge or criticize, you can destroy friendships and relationships. You can sabotage connections at work or other places. Life can become very difficult.

3. You become more critical of yourself. One of the worst negative emotional effects of a judgmental mindset is that you criticize yourself as well as others. Your self-talk becomes very negative as you mentally beat yourself up, and your self-confidence plummets.

Tips to Avoid Judging

If you’re struggling with a judgmental mindset, take heart!   Whether you’re criticizing another person or feeling bad about yourself, you can break the cycle. You don’t have to remain in the pain that it causes. Use this process to avoid judging yourself and others:

1. Notice when you’re judging. The first step is to recognize how many of your thoughts and feelings are judgmental. Monitor your thoughts. Notice how much time you spend on judging and criticizing, both yourself and others.

* Once you learn to recognize a critical thought as soon as it happens, counteract the negative thought with a positive one.

2. Recognize the feelings. You probably don’t enjoy being judged by others, and remembering these feelings can help you avoid doing it yourself. To help you be more patient, keep in mind that everyone’s human and will make mistakes from time to time.

* Instead of jumping to negative conclusions, look for positive qualities.

3. Remind yourself that you can’t see the whole story. No one can see into another person’s soul and read their past! In fact, you most likely don’t know why they think or behave the way that they do.

* For example, you may be critical of someone who eats a lot of junk food and struggles to lose weight. You may feel this person isn’t leading a healthy life, and you know some simple changes can help them. However, you aren’t aware of the real reason they eat, such as emotional issues or years of abuse.

* When you find yourself being critical, remember that you don’t know their story. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They may have perfectly valid reasons for their thoughts or actions.

4. Practice acceptance. Everyone has faults, idiosyncrasies, and issues. Learn to accept these challenges you see in others without judging them or making them feel bad.

* Work toward accepting your own faults as well. Perfectionism is overrated and unachievable. Errors can teach you more than success.

* Acceptance can lead you to sympathy and empathy. It can also open up the doors for you to truly connect with others. Practice acceptance and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results! Judging makes life more difficult and interferes with your wellbeing. You end up creating pain and suffering that isn’t necessary.

You miss out on the good and positive qualities in others and in yourself. Alternatively, you can turn on joy in your life when you take steps to become more accepting!

If you find yourself judging and would like to break this patterns so that you can allow the Law of Attraction to work positively in your life let me know if I can help!

Do You Unconsciously Sabotage Your Success? Perhaps This is Why Do

Do You Unconsciously Sabotage Your Success? Perhaps This is Why Do

Do you always seem to fall short of success? You might be unconsciously keeping yourself from reaching your goals, even when you think you really want to achieve them!

Learning about self-sabotage – and your reasons for it – can help you to stop this unconscious cycle so you can go on to create a life you desire.

Reflect on these reasons to determine if they might be keeping you from success:

1. Fear of failure. One of the reasons you may not reach for success is because you’re afraid to fail. Failure is hard to manage, ignore, or handle. It can eat away at your self-esteem and make you doubt your abilities, so it’s not surprising you’ll do anything to avoid it.

2. Low self-esteem. If you lack confidence and suffer from low self-esteem, self-sabotage may feel natural for you.

* You might think you don’t deserve success, so you unconsciously destroy any chance you have of getting it.

3. Fear of change. Success is often tied to change, such as a new job, better home, or other things. You may be sabotaging your efforts because you don’t want anything to change.

* You’re used to your current lifestyle and don’t want to modify it.

* For example, you may claim that you want a mansion or a private jet, but you don’t actually want to pay for these things or be responsible for them. So, you ensure you never have them in the first place.

4. Control issues. You might self-sabotage in order to remain in control. Are you allowing your control issues to prevent you from reaching success?

* Control and perfectionism are often tied together. If you want everything to be perfect all the time, then you may be losing out on big and important opportunities.

5. Habits. Sometimes your habits can sabotage you without you even realizing it.

* For example, if you have a habit of always being late to meetings, then you may miss your chance to impress a client and get a raise. You self-sabotage your own success because of an old habit.

* Habits such as drinking and doing drugs are also extremely sabotaging.

6. Negativity and criticism. The criticism may come from your own internal negative voice, or it may be coming from outside sources such as your family members or friends. Negativity and criticism can be internalized and cause you to sabotage success.

* If you constantly hear that you’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough, then you begin to believe this. You feel that you don’t deserve to be successful.

* You may not want to try things that could help you because you don’t think you’re worthy of them. Family, friends, coworkers, bosses, and others may have you believing that you’re useless, dumb, or worthless.

* In addition, research shows that your parents can affect you as an adult. If your parents exhibited self-sabotaging behavior, then you may copy it throughout your life. You grew up seeing this pattern and have a hard time breaking out of it. Their insecurities can carry over to your life.

If you’re sabotaging your own life and future, you can change. It will require effort and time, but it’s possible to reshape your thoughts. Whenever a thought appears that doesn’t support your efforts to achieve your goals, immediately replace it with a positive thought, instead.

Many years ago I took the program currently known as Landmark Forum.  It was life changing!  Before that my life was full of depression and self-doubt.  I was the poster girl for self-sabotage!  That was the first time that I realized that I was 100% responsible for everything that happened in my life.

I learned that I had the choice, consciously or unconsciously life my dream life or life in self-sabotage.  Guess what?  I have done both.  More of the time now I get better and better at both recognizing unsupportive thoughts and changing them.  It takes focus and tools and the effort is totally worth it.

How close are you to reaching your success?  How do you define success?  I would love to know.

Brain Science, Meditation and Law of Attraction

Lately I have had a lot of people have said they have heard of Law of Attraction, but it has not been working for them.   They are tired of hearing about it, tired the advertised websites, seminars and self improvement programs promising the moon and the stars  using Law of Attraction because it just does not seem to work for them.

The truth is, the Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, it is Universal Law, but if you are not vibrating in the energetic vicinity of what you desire, you are not going to get it.

When people are not getting what they want, they think the Law of Attraction does not work. But sorry, folks, there is no getting out of Universal Law. It is working; you are just not allowing it to work in your favor.
Another reason people don’t want to hear about the Law of Attraction is because they don’t want to be responsible for their own lives. They find it easier to blame others for everything that happens to them or blame some cruel God who punishes us for our sins.

Law of Attraction is like gravity, and we don’t talk about gravity all day long trying to figure out how to use it to our advantage in our lives.

We don’t go around trying to “invoke” gravity. We just KNOW it IS and act accordingly. Why keep talking about it and trying to get it to work for us? It already is working for us. People don’t have to know anything about gravity to stay planted on the ground, nor do they need to know of or believe in the Law of Attraction to attract like energy. It’s a given.

There is no doubt that like energy and vibration attracts like energy and vibration; that is the proven scientific explanation.

But spiritually, the explanation is that Divine Super Intelligence (God, The Universe) loves us unconditionally and wants to give us what we want. So to make it easy, and not overwhelming like Jim Carey in Bruce Almighty.

Source lets us be our own self sufficient creators, each of us holding the power that creates worlds within us.

Why would we ever think/feel/vibrate anything that we don’t want knowing that we are powerful creators who create our reality with our thoughts/feelings/vibration?

There is a reason why we hold ourselves back.

We all have beliefs that we have held for a lifetime, some of the outdated and limiting.  For many, myself included, a limiting belief can be triggered when we least expect it.  It is recognizing it and turning it around immediately that is the key.

Our beliefs filter our perception of life, how we see ourselves and others. Our beliefs are there to protect us and keep us safe; we created them early on when we observed something and made a decision about it. Or maybe we heard someone say something like “You will never amount to anything”, or “Don’t eat that, you will get fat,” or “You have to work hard to make money,” and boom, a belief is born. Our forming brains soaked it up like a sponge and made it true for us. But what we thought we needed to keep us safe as children is no longer valid as adults, especially as we evolve and expand.

We need to learn to adjust and amend and re-wire until our beliefs match our desires so that we get what we desire by Divine Universal Law.

It doesn’t take rocket science to figure out where you are vibrating on any given subject. Just look at your bank account, your relationships, your career. What you are getting is what you are vibrating. Every time. And if you are not getting what you want, you have beliefs that are keeping you where you are. Bust the limiting beliefs and you are free!

If you are saying positive affirmations, created a vision board, visualize and using any other too that you resonate with but you are still not manifesting your desires, you have subconscious limiting beliefs that say “no you can’t, no you aren’t, it’s not going to happen,” that sabotage your positive actions. All the affirmations in the world are not going to work if your underlying core belief is that you are not worthy of your dreams.

Why do we ever not follow our dreams? Why do we limit ourselves and justify and settle? Sometimes beliefs are so ingrained and so a part of who we are, we don’t even realize they are there and that they are limiting us. But if you not living the life of your dreams, you definitely have limiting beliefs holding you back from being the unlimited being that you truly are.

There are many ways to bust your limiting beliefs:

    • It is helpful to first identify your limiting beliefs. One way to identify them is to become a conscious thinker. Become observant to your thoughts. Become present and in the moment to what you are thinking about. Notice and observe your thoughts instead of just letting them run on and on. Stop yourself and think about what you are thinking! The background running thoughts that we think without thinking are the subconscious mind running our core patterns and beliefs.
    • Our conscious mind says, “I am happy, wealthy and healthy, see I even wrote it one hundred times and cut out pictures about it!” And our subconscious mind says, “Oh, no, you’re not, remember that time they told you that you are stupid and would never amount to anything?” And the subconscious dominate belief wins.
    • Become a conscious thinker and notice when your mind chatter is saying “I’m not good enough, I can never do that, I’ll never have a lot of money.” When you notice those thoughts, don’t get upset with yourself. Just gently bring your thoughts to positive statements such as, “I am worthy, The Universe is loving and supports me, I am abundant in all ways.” With time and repetition, you will start to believe them.
    • The key here is focus and repetition. Repetition rewires. You can literally rewire the neurons in your brain to create a new path that connects to new core beliefs. Dr. Joe Dispenza of What the Bleep? fame says it takes seventeen days to rewire the neurons in your brain to create to new core beliefs and habits.

Be patient, give yourself a break, you have been running these patterns and beliefs for most of your life and the prize you get for releasing them and replacing them is well worth the effort. After all, it’s your life!

Here are a few of the methods I have personally used for eliminating limiting beliefs and have also taught clients with huge rates of success!

One effective method for releasing limiting beliefs and old emotional baggage is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). EFT uses the energy meridian points on your body, the same ones used for acupuncture. You simply tap on these points in order while going through a sequence of statements that relate to your issue. I have seen miraculous results using EFT and have added it to my coaching practice because it is so quick and easy. EFT is becoming more and more popular as people discover its powerful and rapid belief release abilities.  Click Here to learn more for free.

I also love The Sedona Method which focuses on you how to uncover your natural ability to let go of any painful or unwanted feeling in the moment.

Hypnotherapy is also great for easily getting to your core beliefs and replacing them with new ones. You can visit a qualified hypnotherapist or even find a self hypnosis program that will guide you into a relaxed theta state and then feed you some new beliefs to hang onto.  I love the work of Steve G. Jones.  Click here to learn more.

Do some research and follow your inner guidance and intuition to find which method will work best for you. It might be one or a combination of them. YOU will know what is best for you. Trust your guidance and what calls to you.

All these methods are great for helping you to release limiting beliefs that no longer serve you, however they are in addition to, and do not take the place of, becoming, right NOW, the person you want to be.

Step right into who you really are, your true authentic self. Limitless. Free. Joyful. Abundant. Loving. Be happy now, appreciate what you have now, start to live out your dreams now!

How would you feel if you were living your dreams right now? What would you do? How would you walk, talk, be? Stop seeking and start BEING. Be it NOW, and be it consistently, and watch your limiting beliefs fall away fast! Talk about instant vibrational alignment!

Surround yourself with people who support you in your new beliefs. Get a life coach who will guide you into your dreams and be your cheerleader.  Reach out to me for a free coaching session.   Join or form a master mind group where you all support and hold each other in the vision of who you really are. Join positive groups that are aligned with your vision. There is big power in numbers. Take constant inspired action steps towards your dreams. Let go of blame, anger, old emotions and baggage that no longer serve you. Follow your heart and intuition. Take time each and every day for your enlightenment and expansion and health. Overcome the limiting beliefs that bind you and set yourself free!

When you align your core beliefs with your desires, there will be no stopping you. Like gravity, you will not have to think about the Law of Attraction working ever again. You will be too busy living your dreams!

Let me know if you would like to talk about coaching with me.  To learn more click here to attend Module 1 of the Live Your Best Life Now Course I created with Tanya Brockett and begin living your dream life today!